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My MIL Destroyed My Reputation—She Won’t Forget the Week-Long Trip I Prpeared for Her

Junie Sihlangu
May 07, 2024
08:35 A.M.

My mother-in-law thought she could get away with spreading rumors and private information about me to family and other people. But little did she know that I could play dirty too! Instead of doing one thing to get revenge, I planned several things that were bound to shut her up forever!

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A younger and older woman having a serious conversation | Source: Getty Images

So my husband, Peter, and I have not been having the best of years in our marriage; frankly, it's been horrible. The way it's been so bad, my husband called his father, my father-in-law (FIL), asking for advice. He apparently wanted to know how things could be fixed between us.

Unfortunately, what was meant to be a private conversation made its way to his wife, my mother-in-law (MIL). She seemed all too eager to share these intimate details with the rest of the family. The worst part about it is that the information my MIL spread was private and quite embarrassing.

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Women sharing gossip | Source: Getty Images

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Truth is, she did it on purpose because she never liked me. I think she seized her chance to humiliate me when my FIL opened up to her about our problems. Besides sharing mine and Peter's real issues with anyone who'd listen, the woman took it a step further.

I recently discovered that my MIL has been spreading nasty rumors about me at her church! I heard she lied about who I am. Claiming things like I didn't do chores at home or I slept until the afternoon while my children went hungry. According to her I even flirted with married men!

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An untidy house | Source: Freepik

I don't want to lie; I was furious to hear all these things because people started gossiping about me. Feeling humiliated, I decided I was done with her and went no contact, fully blocking her on all fronts.

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Of course, I informed my husband before taking such steps. He was supportive, although he wasn't willing to do much to remedy the situation. Sadly, avoiding her entirely wasn't an option. Peter and I, along with our children, join his family for a week-long vacation every spring.

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A family packing for a vacation | Source: Getty Images

It's a highlight for the kids, seeing their cousins and enjoying family time. I wasn't going to let her ruin this for me or them, but I definitely couldn't let her actions slide either. Without mentioning anything to my husband, I decided to plan so many surprises for her over that week!

I knew my revenge plan needed to be as spectacular as it was unforgettable. I have several ideas in mind and am curious about which ones you would choose for my MIL. Here they are:

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A woman holding a phone and plotting something | Source: Freepik

Okay, idea number one was something simple yet effective. Knowing how uptight she is, I planned on buying extra-large granny panties and a Snickers bar. After melting the chocolate, I will craft the two items together and "accidentally" leave them near her camper.

The visual alone would be enough to send her into a tizzy! I'm evil, I know! The second one would be me scattering small plastic penises around her camper site. For an added touch, I planned on spraying her favorite folding chair with fart spray. Fake turds would also be placed in strategic locations.

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A chair with a spray, a cloth, and gloves close by | Source: Pexels

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She prided herself on maintaining a clean, almost sterile camping area—my little additions would throw her off! But I didn't plan to stop there. My third idea was to deal with her fake Christian demeanor. So I took it a step further by preparing to sign her up for visitation from Jehovah’s Witnesses!

I am not one to do things half-heartedly, so they wouldn't come once, but frequently and insistently! I arranged all this online, ensuring they'd come knocking at the most inconvenient times during our time away.

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A woman standing by an open door | Source: Getty Images

And because she loved presenting herself as a pious Christian, I realized that the best thing I could do was to use her own weapon against her. I printed out Bible verses that condemned gossip and tale-telling. I then urged her unexpected visitors to quote them to her.

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I told them, "She's a committed Christian who loves these specific verses. Read them to her in full, she'll be touched!" I planned to ensure I embarrassed the heck out of her because that's the only way to do it.

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Someone reading a bible | Source: Getty Images

For those interested, here are some of the verses she'll be hearing on repeat:

Proverbs 11:13 - "He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy conceals a matter."

Proverbs 17:9 - "He who covers a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates intimate friends."

Proverbs 20:19 - "He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets; therefore, do not associate with a gossip."

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Proverbs 25:9-10 - "...don’t reveal the secret of another, lest he who hears it reproach you, and the evil report about you does not pass away."

Matthew 18:15 - "If your brother sins, go and reprove him in private..." This verse implies the desirability of resolving matters one-on-one instead of spreading information everywhere.

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A woman reacting in shock and surprise | Source: Getty Images

Whenever we got together for family gatherings, I made it a point to discuss these verses, particularly when she was within earshot. "Isn’t it fascinating how the scripture speaks to our daily lives?" I mused aloud, ensuring everyone, especially MIL, could hear.

"Especially about those who spread rumors and gossip."

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Family members gathered for a meal | Source: Pexels

With the fourth and last idea, I chose to go for something with a little extra spice! I subscribed her to a lesbian newsletter, but this I had delivered to her neighbor's address—in her name!

Throughout this ordeal, my husband remained a bit too passive for my liking. I confronted him and told him he needed to learn to support me, but his decision wasn’t going to deter me.

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Whenever his mother tried to corner me with a snide remark or a judgmental glance in front of the family, I’d reply with sugary sweetness. Occasionally I'd ask, "So, what was your MIL’s opinion of you?" That usually got a few family members, including my FIL, to chime in with some less-than-flattering stories about her!

This trip was a turning point. She learned the hard way that I wasn't someone to be trifled with. I had a backbone, and I wasn’t afraid to show it! Whether she changes her ways or not, she definitely won’t forget this vacation or my capabilities anytime soon!

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An older and younger woman who don't get along | Source: Getty Images

In Dolly's case, it isn't clear why her MIL despises her to the point of trying to tarnish her reputation and she had to draw solid boundaries through harsh measures. However, in Nadia's case - in the following story - the reason why her MIL acted badly toward her had a lot to do with the older woman's unresolved issues.

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My Heart Dropped When I Saw the 'Gift' My Mother-In-Law Left in the Nightstand While I Was Away

I’m Nadia, and I've got to tell you about this completely unexpected situation that unfolded with my MIL, Cynthia, after a seemingly perfect anniversary night out with my husband, Jim. Everything started great.

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A couple enjoying a romantic date | Source: Getty Images

Jim and I had a wonderful dinner and a movie, really reconnecting in a way that made me fall even more in love with him. When we got back, though, I could sense that Cynthia was off; she seemed eager to leave and slightly annoyed by our affectionate display.

I shrugged it off, thinking maybe I was reading too much into it. The next day, while my husband was busy in the garage and I was watching cartoons with our daughter Lily, she made a funny comment about how Grandma Cynthia was sneaking around the house like Scooby-Doo.

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I laughed it off until Lily told me Cynthia had left a surprise in my nightstand. Expecting maybe a sweet note or a small gift, I was shocked to find a letter that was anything but warm. The letter was a cold, critical analysis of my life choices, especially my commitment to my career, which Cynthia felt was undermining the family's unity.

It was so formal and distant, filled with words about missed paths and concerns for our family’s future. It hit me hard because my MIL had always been supportive—or so I thought. Upset and confused, I debated how to handle this.

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A shocked woman reading a letter | Source: Getty Images

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I wanted to confront Cynthia without causing a scene or upsetting the delicate balance of our relationship. So, I told her I needed to talk about Lily, hoping to discuss the letter more calmly once I was there.

During our conversation, my MIL initially pretended not to know what I was talking about, but when I showed her the letter, she broke down. She confessed that her feelings of neglect and insignificance had driven her to write it.

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Two women having a serious conversation | Source: Getty Images

We had a long, emotional talk where it became clear that a lot of her actions were driven by loneliness and the drastic changes in her life after her husband's, and Jim’s father’s, death. I explained how important my work was to me and reassured her that it didn’t mean I loved our family any less.

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We realized that we needed to spend more quality time together as a family and that maybe it was time for Cynthia to seek some counseling to address her feelings of loss and loneliness. After coming home and discussing everything with Jim, we agreed that it was essential to support my MIL more actively.

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A couple having a serious conversation | Source: Getty Images

Maybe even adjust our work schedules to make more time for family. It was a tough situation that opened up a lot of old wounds. But it also brought us closer together through honesty and mutual understanding.

I’d love to hear from anyone who might have had similar experiences or just thoughts on how to navigate these complex family dynamics. It’s not easy, but sharing and learning from each other can really help!

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This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.

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